BASH THAT BITCH!

I initially made a Twitter account to run away from the rest of the world, to express myself and just tweet my thoughts without anyone's knowledge. I would tweet things that I felt, saw and think. Nowadays, I feel like I can't anymore. Why? SOCIETY.

I'm sure everybody wants to act how they wish and wherever, but these days it seems so impossible to do so.

Nobody likes to be judged, but then again go judging other people, including me.

See, since I decided to follow more Malaysians than others, I noticed a trend.

An interesting yet shocking trend.

They call it "bashing".

What do they do when they "bash" someone?

bash (bsh)

"v. bashed, bash·ing, bash·es

v.tr.

1. To strike with a heavy, crushing blow: The thug bashed the hood of the car with a sledgehammer.

2. To beat or assault severely: The police arrested the men who bashed an immigrant in the park.

3. Informal To criticize (another) harshly, accusatorially, and threateningly: "He bashed the . . . government unmercifully over the . . . spy affair" (Lally Weymouth)." - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/bash

By definition, you understand that "bashing" someone would be to intentionally severely hurt someone ephysically.
Twitter users now seem to take "bashing" to another new level where it's not only physical, but also emotional and mental.
They "bash" someone by sending hurtful tweets to whomever they negatively judge to injure their ego, confidence and self esteem.

This is also what's now known to be "cyber-bullying".

Cyber bullying has caused many deaths in the past recent years due to the mental and emotional stress that some people face. These deaths are caused by both murder and suicides. False information and misunderstandings online, be it Twitter, Facebook or wherever else passed on by irresponsible individuals often cause much distress to the party being discussed and also to the society.

It seems that every time someone tries to fit in, there'll always be someone there to shoot them down. Focusing on Twitter, I see that when someone tweets something that is quite normal to me still gets bashed, only because some people just can't seem to get it through their puny narrow minds that some people do tweet whatever they want.

Having said that, I would like to state that I DO NOT CONDONE TWEETING WHATEVER ONE WANTS JUST BECAUSE IT'S THEIR ACCOUNT. Now, both "basher" and "bashee" can't blame each other for the distress caused to each other nor society.

"Bashee" needs to understand that even if the account is yours, you must respect those who follow you and please don't make up self proclaimed titles for yourself, unless you're sure you can own and work that title.

"Basher" needs to not be so judgmental, no matter how unacceptable someone's statement seems to be to you. It just shows your immaturity when you just randomly tweet mean things to someone you don't even know just because others are doing it too. If you must say something, try to advice them or share some kind words. If you personally know them, then take whatever action you see appropriate.

This "bashing" trend is not healthy. It hurts everyone, not just the individual(s) being discussed.
I do not exclude myself when I say "bashing people on Twitter is so immature and stupid". I do admit that I have, at some point, "bashed" someone. I try to keep away from "Twitter drama", but at times, I admit that I can't help but join in.

I would like the "bashing' to stop here with me, right here and now, but it shan't stop til everyone acts sensibly.

Note: I do write like as if I'm so damn mature, I know you're judging right now. Just so you know, I write both for myself and readers. It's to help us realize things.

FATIN A'LIA

xox

Trust

I do have secrets of my own, and I don't share everything nor my opinion about other people unless I am sure I want to make them known. In my silence, I do evaluate people. Think I'm being judgmental? Look in the mirror, you judge too. I don't let my judgments get to my head before I know someone properly. I can see for myself, I don't need people telling me stuff. When people tell me stuff, I voice out my opinion not about the person, rather the behavior that's being told to me.

Now, A has been telling me things about B. B and I know we don't like each other, so we try our best to stay out of each other's ways. What's happening now is A just won't stop telling me stuff about B when, honestly, I don't care what B does with her life. She may go die for all I care.

The whole time that A has been telling me things about B, A forgot that she comes off looking really bad when she just can't stop talking about B. I didn't want to judge, but it starts to get hard to ignore how bad A looks.

A seems to be good friends with B, yes, I don't care. A can go be friends with whoever she wants. The thing that's the matter is that I can't help but feel like I can't trust A. Seeing the betrayal in their friendship, I can't help but feel insecure. I can't help but wonder, "If A tells me stuff about B, then does A also tell B stuff about me?"

I really don't want to call A "batu api", I really do love her. I want to be able to trust her, but I can't help but feel that I just can't.

I'm sorry, I love you A, but I just can't help feeling that I can't trust you.

I want to, but I just can't. I believe you but I can't trust you.

That's why, when we're friends with someone, never built that friendship based on a mutual disagreement/hatred/negative feelings towards a third person. Trust does become an issue.

I hate being in this position.

FATIN A'LIA

xox